There was an email update from Renee again this morning. Things are back to "normal" and they continued on the houses and medical clinic down there. Thank goodness. So, really, there was only one "down" day, and that was the day they had planned to not work anyway. Usually on the Sunday they are down there, it's church in the morning, then the rest of the day shopping at "Valley of the Angels" (don't even ask me what the Spanish name is!!). Being able to get back to work today is such a good thing. God is so, so good. I love Him being in charge. I know I'd mess up so much if I were in charge instead of Him!!!!!
Bruce Wiersma, a deacon at All Souls, is a professor at UMO, and he has a friend in Honduras, also a professor, at a university down there. Bruce had emailed his friend, Alex, Sunday to see the situation down there. Alex replied today, which Bruce forwarded to all of us, and he said it's fine down there. There is no rioting, no mobs, etc. It was a "peaceful" politcal coup, as opposed to an angry, military-type coup. The president they ousted was a communist, and was aligning himself with Chavez, Castro, etc, and wanted to be a dictator instead of a benovolent president. So, they got rid of him and packed him off to Costa Rica. According to Alex, when the sitting president is not fit to govern, they send him off, and the president of the Congress is appointed president to fulfill the rest of the president's term until a new one is elected at that time. Interesting.
Looks like things are getting back to normal there, both politcally and mission-trip wise. I feel very calm about it all right now. Ahhhhh.....the power of prayer!!!
Onto another topic: I got a phone call from my cousin Terra out in Indiana!!!! She was on her way home from work and decided to give me a call. I was so pleased!!! I absolutely adore her. We are so, so, so much alike!! It was so nice talking to her. She's going to try and figure out when she can come out for a visit, but her vacation time might not work out this year. I hope it does, but I don't want her to feel pressured, either. I'd love to have some time to hang out with her, show her around our beautiful state, and just have girl-fun!!!!!! We'll see what happens. I hope it's soon, but I understand if she has to wait. Ohhh,,,,sad face here.
Hopefully, we won't hear from anyone down in Honduras til they are on their way home.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Sunday, June 28, 2009
More on Honduras
All is well so far in Honduras....at least as far as the ASSIST-JC team goes. The whole country down there seems to be at a standstill, too, as far as the politics go. I went to the update/prayer meeting for the Travelers tonight at All Souls. It looked like all the families of the travelers were there, along with others who wanted to be a part of it. That's good....the more prayers the better. Rev Bob Carlson led the service, since he's the interim pastor with Rev Haddix being in Honduras.
Rev Carlson said that this morning he was waiting in Darcel's office (church secretary) til it was time for him to make his way to the meeting house ("church-part" of the building), when her phone started ringing...and ringing...and ringing....Well, he didn't want to answer it since it wasn't his phone, but just as the answering machine started to come on, something made him answer it anyway. "Hello; All Souls Church". Other voice: "Who IS this??" "Um, it's Rev Carlson. I'm filling in for Rev Haddix." Other voice: "Bob?????!!!!! It's Renee....I'm calling from Honduras. We're having a little situation down here I need to let you know about...." and with that, she proceeded to explain what little they knew about what was happening down there, including hearing three jets going over the Camp this morning on the way to the capital (Tegucigalpa). (Alex's first reaction to all this was,"The first time I don't go on one of these trips, and it gets exciting!! I'd love to be there!) Then she put Rev Haddix on the phone, they talked some more, then they had to go. It was only a few minute conversation, but a lot of information packed into it. When he went in to give the sermon, he told the congregation about it. (I didn't go to church this morning because I'm getting a cold and I felt lousy--sneezing on people is not a good thing-- so I stayed home and listened to the sermon from Bangor Baptist church)
However, knowing what was happening down there then going into the service, it gave him enough time to formulate some plans in his head. After the service was over this morning, he got on the phone to a friend of his who works in Sen Susan Collins' office, who then got in touch with her "personal" secretary/aid/worker/whatever in the Bangor Office, Carol Woodcock. Carol then got in touch with Susan Collins and let her know what was happening, then Sen. Collins called Rev Carlson for more details, then made contacts at the State Department and the US Embassy in Honduras. So, now all of our Senators and Reps in DC know what's happening, and they/Collins have every traveler's passport numbers and information. So, if they have to go to the Embassy down there, they are all set. In between times, though, we've had an email update from Renee saying everything is fine, and don't worry.
The service tonight was really nice. Tons of prayer, of course, and the recounting of the above story/timeline of events, some slow hymns (hey, it's a Congregational church...'nough said. I, however, think most events call for some Jars of Clay or Toby Mac, or at the very slowest some Third Day or Chris Tomlin, but I'm not asked my opinion on that!! ha--Just kidding, sort of, Renee, if you ever read this!!), then the Deacons got up and read the names of the Travelers. Each Deacon had about 5 or 6 names to read, til they got through all 60-some. I thought it was 70-some, but I learned tonight there were "only" 60-some travelers. Of course, there's another church from Rhode Island or somewhere with about 20-30 people, and the three friends from Maryland who are friends of Dr. Tom Openshaw. So, altogether there are almost 100 mission workers at the Mission Discovery Camp.
It was nice being with the family and friends of Katie's fellow travelers, and knowing we were all there for the same reason....to reach out to God to keep them safe. After the service, we all went down into the vestry to have coffee, tea, and cookies and talk with others. There's not too much to say about that, since what can you say to each other except hug them and talk about how nervous the kids must be down there, etc. Well, I doubt if my "kid" is nervous. And I think she's certain of the fact that I'm not up here drowning in worry. God is with her and them; the group of people she's with are exemplary; and I would bet she's doing all she can to make others comfortable. I hope any "first traveler" who is nervous will seek her out. She's such a calming person. She has a wonderful way of getting a person to stay focused and not dwell on the negative. I'm so proud of her. I love you, Katie!!!!!!!!!!!
A huge prayer of mine has been for God to take this "down-time" and use it to His glory. Especially since there is another group from a vastly different religion from Congregational. I hope this will force the teens to interact with each other in a way that would otherwise not have been possible, and see that just because the religion is different, the faith is the same. Well, basically. However, even people in the same religion have varying degrees of faith. That's why it's called your walk of faith. Everyone is at a different step at different times in life. But, we are all pointed toward the same God, and the same Truth to get to Heaven---His Son, Jesus.
I would hope that the medical clinic can still be conducted within the Camp. I know the houses might have to be put on hold, but maybe at least one aspect of the trip could still be realized. A second email came in from Renee while we were at the prayer meeting, and she said that everyone is still fine; keeping busy by singing, painting toe nails, taking crazy pics, making beads, etc. Also, the Embassy has let them know that they are aware they are at the Camp, and they are safe where they are. The airport is still operating under "normal" circumstances--no interruptions. The biggest worry of the travelers is worrying about us worrying about them!!! I wish I could send Renee an email to let her know we all are fine, too (well, except for some parents who aren't too happy right about now.), and to give all down there a hug from us up here. However, if everyone sent an email, it would take forever for her page to load, because I'm sure they are NOT running on wireless/broadband down there in the jungles of Honduras!!! There is one Point of Contact (POC) from the church, and that's Kathie Robie. I'm sure she's sending emails with what's necessary in them.
Wednesday morning they leave the Camp and go to Tegucigalpa to the airport to head home. Depending on what's happening, they might be headed to the Embassy. Hey, I just remembered that Ellen and Jim Tobin are there, too, and they have tons and tons of contacts in DC, since Jim was heavily involved in the Republican Party. He's not a politician--he's too nice and honest--but he's more of a campaigner. Anyway, that's good to know, too, and he knows a lot of people (Sen Collins, etc) personally. He even knew President George Bush!!! Now, if Bush were still in Office, I'd feel better.
So, it's getting very late (12:55, after midnight). I'm so tired, but with this stupid cold I can't sleep right. I'm going to get some Zicam from the store to help me feel better faster. I'll update again if I hear anything interesting.
Rev Carlson said that this morning he was waiting in Darcel's office (church secretary) til it was time for him to make his way to the meeting house ("church-part" of the building), when her phone started ringing...and ringing...and ringing....Well, he didn't want to answer it since it wasn't his phone, but just as the answering machine started to come on, something made him answer it anyway. "Hello; All Souls Church". Other voice: "Who IS this??" "Um, it's Rev Carlson. I'm filling in for Rev Haddix." Other voice: "Bob?????!!!!! It's Renee....I'm calling from Honduras. We're having a little situation down here I need to let you know about...." and with that, she proceeded to explain what little they knew about what was happening down there, including hearing three jets going over the Camp this morning on the way to the capital (Tegucigalpa). (Alex's first reaction to all this was,"The first time I don't go on one of these trips, and it gets exciting!! I'd love to be there!) Then she put Rev Haddix on the phone, they talked some more, then they had to go. It was only a few minute conversation, but a lot of information packed into it. When he went in to give the sermon, he told the congregation about it. (I didn't go to church this morning because I'm getting a cold and I felt lousy--sneezing on people is not a good thing-- so I stayed home and listened to the sermon from Bangor Baptist church)
However, knowing what was happening down there then going into the service, it gave him enough time to formulate some plans in his head. After the service was over this morning, he got on the phone to a friend of his who works in Sen Susan Collins' office, who then got in touch with her "personal" secretary/aid/worker/whatever in the Bangor Office, Carol Woodcock. Carol then got in touch with Susan Collins and let her know what was happening, then Sen. Collins called Rev Carlson for more details, then made contacts at the State Department and the US Embassy in Honduras. So, now all of our Senators and Reps in DC know what's happening, and they/Collins have every traveler's passport numbers and information. So, if they have to go to the Embassy down there, they are all set. In between times, though, we've had an email update from Renee saying everything is fine, and don't worry.
The service tonight was really nice. Tons of prayer, of course, and the recounting of the above story/timeline of events, some slow hymns (hey, it's a Congregational church...'nough said. I, however, think most events call for some Jars of Clay or Toby Mac, or at the very slowest some Third Day or Chris Tomlin, but I'm not asked my opinion on that!! ha--Just kidding, sort of, Renee, if you ever read this!!), then the Deacons got up and read the names of the Travelers. Each Deacon had about 5 or 6 names to read, til they got through all 60-some. I thought it was 70-some, but I learned tonight there were "only" 60-some travelers. Of course, there's another church from Rhode Island or somewhere with about 20-30 people, and the three friends from Maryland who are friends of Dr. Tom Openshaw. So, altogether there are almost 100 mission workers at the Mission Discovery Camp.
It was nice being with the family and friends of Katie's fellow travelers, and knowing we were all there for the same reason....to reach out to God to keep them safe. After the service, we all went down into the vestry to have coffee, tea, and cookies and talk with others. There's not too much to say about that, since what can you say to each other except hug them and talk about how nervous the kids must be down there, etc. Well, I doubt if my "kid" is nervous. And I think she's certain of the fact that I'm not up here drowning in worry. God is with her and them; the group of people she's with are exemplary; and I would bet she's doing all she can to make others comfortable. I hope any "first traveler" who is nervous will seek her out. She's such a calming person. She has a wonderful way of getting a person to stay focused and not dwell on the negative. I'm so proud of her. I love you, Katie!!!!!!!!!!!
A huge prayer of mine has been for God to take this "down-time" and use it to His glory. Especially since there is another group from a vastly different religion from Congregational. I hope this will force the teens to interact with each other in a way that would otherwise not have been possible, and see that just because the religion is different, the faith is the same. Well, basically. However, even people in the same religion have varying degrees of faith. That's why it's called your walk of faith. Everyone is at a different step at different times in life. But, we are all pointed toward the same God, and the same Truth to get to Heaven---His Son, Jesus.
I would hope that the medical clinic can still be conducted within the Camp. I know the houses might have to be put on hold, but maybe at least one aspect of the trip could still be realized. A second email came in from Renee while we were at the prayer meeting, and she said that everyone is still fine; keeping busy by singing, painting toe nails, taking crazy pics, making beads, etc. Also, the Embassy has let them know that they are aware they are at the Camp, and they are safe where they are. The airport is still operating under "normal" circumstances--no interruptions. The biggest worry of the travelers is worrying about us worrying about them!!! I wish I could send Renee an email to let her know we all are fine, too (well, except for some parents who aren't too happy right about now.), and to give all down there a hug from us up here. However, if everyone sent an email, it would take forever for her page to load, because I'm sure they are NOT running on wireless/broadband down there in the jungles of Honduras!!! There is one Point of Contact (POC) from the church, and that's Kathie Robie. I'm sure she's sending emails with what's necessary in them.
Wednesday morning they leave the Camp and go to Tegucigalpa to the airport to head home. Depending on what's happening, they might be headed to the Embassy. Hey, I just remembered that Ellen and Jim Tobin are there, too, and they have tons and tons of contacts in DC, since Jim was heavily involved in the Republican Party. He's not a politician--he's too nice and honest--but he's more of a campaigner. Anyway, that's good to know, too, and he knows a lot of people (Sen Collins, etc) personally. He even knew President George Bush!!! Now, if Bush were still in Office, I'd feel better.
So, it's getting very late (12:55, after midnight). I'm so tired, but with this stupid cold I can't sleep right. I'm going to get some Zicam from the store to help me feel better faster. I'll update again if I hear anything interesting.
Honduras Update.....
Wow. The president of Honduras has been arrested. It happened right in the capital city of Tegucigalpa, which is where the group from All Souls flies into. Kathie Robie, one of the ladies at church (and wife and mother of two of the travelers) sent out an email update that all (over 70 members from All Souls) are to stay at the Camp (where Mission Discovery's headquarters are). The Camp is well away from Teg. (I'm not trying to spell that again!!), but just as a safety precaution, they are not to go anywhere. I believe this is the third coup in about 20 years or something like that. Of course, they'd have to have a coup while people are down there trying to help. They could have waited two more weeks!!!
A few minutes ago, Kathie called me (she's trying to call everyone in case they didn't get the email. I said it's too much for her, and everyone should check their email when their kids/spouses are gone). Anyway, Kathie said Senator Susan Collins' office has been notified of who's down there, and all the information. Kathie wasn't sure why she needed it, but I told her that if anything happens, then I would imagine that all our group would go to the Embassy down there for safe keeping. She said my calmness made her feel better. I'm glad I could help her. She's such a wonderful lady.
What irritates me most of all is that because of this coup, all work has to stop; people down there depend on the medical clinic they/we provide, and there were at least three houses being built. Ugh!!! I hate that work is stopped because of this.
Prayer, prayer, prayer. I sent an email to Dr. Jerry Mick, my pastor at Bangor Baptist, to apprise him of what's going on, and for lots of prayer. There is a prayer meeting/update tonight at All Souls church at 7pm.
I wanted Katie to have an adventure down there, but I didn't think it would involve shooting and a coup!!! What a story she will have when she gets home!! I've been following this on Fox News, and from what I can tell, there was some shooting involved when the president was "overthrown", but I don't think anyone was hurt. So, it could have been a shot fired, someone heard it, but it didn't hit anyone. Also, the president (or is he now the ex-president?) has been whisked away to some unkown destination. If it's a relatively "peaceful" coup, all could be fine very soon. However, the Cuban Stupid President Castro and the Venezuelean Stupid President Chavez are behind this ousted leader, so I don't know what's happening with all that politically. The Two Stupids are communist, of course, so we shall see where this leads.
The people on the ASSIST-JC Team are wonderful. (All Souls Students in Service to Jesus Christ) Most of them have been on the mission trips together for years. The biggest changes are the students; usually after one Honduras trip, they don't go back. Sometimes they go just to put it on their college resume, and sometimes they don't go back because they didn't like the conditions down there. However, the students who go back year after year are the most dedicated ones, and they along with the adults make up an extraordinary group of people. Everyone knows everyone else, and they are there as a group, not just individuals going together. That's why, if you are a student and you plan to go to Honduras, you have to go the previous year to the Eastport mission trip. That way, you get to know your fellow travelers while still in Maine, and you get to see what it's like to really work hard with others. Katie knows all the adults going on this trip, and since she is 22, a college studen, and technically an adult, she counts as one this year instead of "just a student" or a "teenager". Also, they all love her and know her visual limitations, so I know she's in good hands with them.
Wouldn't it be fun if they were all airlifted back Home on military planes????? As long as they are safe, I'm happy.
Keep praying!!!!!!
A few minutes ago, Kathie called me (she's trying to call everyone in case they didn't get the email. I said it's too much for her, and everyone should check their email when their kids/spouses are gone). Anyway, Kathie said Senator Susan Collins' office has been notified of who's down there, and all the information. Kathie wasn't sure why she needed it, but I told her that if anything happens, then I would imagine that all our group would go to the Embassy down there for safe keeping. She said my calmness made her feel better. I'm glad I could help her. She's such a wonderful lady.
What irritates me most of all is that because of this coup, all work has to stop; people down there depend on the medical clinic they/we provide, and there were at least three houses being built. Ugh!!! I hate that work is stopped because of this.
Prayer, prayer, prayer. I sent an email to Dr. Jerry Mick, my pastor at Bangor Baptist, to apprise him of what's going on, and for lots of prayer. There is a prayer meeting/update tonight at All Souls church at 7pm.
I wanted Katie to have an adventure down there, but I didn't think it would involve shooting and a coup!!! What a story she will have when she gets home!! I've been following this on Fox News, and from what I can tell, there was some shooting involved when the president was "overthrown", but I don't think anyone was hurt. So, it could have been a shot fired, someone heard it, but it didn't hit anyone. Also, the president (or is he now the ex-president?) has been whisked away to some unkown destination. If it's a relatively "peaceful" coup, all could be fine very soon. However, the Cuban Stupid President Castro and the Venezuelean Stupid President Chavez are behind this ousted leader, so I don't know what's happening with all that politically. The Two Stupids are communist, of course, so we shall see where this leads.
The people on the ASSIST-JC Team are wonderful. (All Souls Students in Service to Jesus Christ) Most of them have been on the mission trips together for years. The biggest changes are the students; usually after one Honduras trip, they don't go back. Sometimes they go just to put it on their college resume, and sometimes they don't go back because they didn't like the conditions down there. However, the students who go back year after year are the most dedicated ones, and they along with the adults make up an extraordinary group of people. Everyone knows everyone else, and they are there as a group, not just individuals going together. That's why, if you are a student and you plan to go to Honduras, you have to go the previous year to the Eastport mission trip. That way, you get to know your fellow travelers while still in Maine, and you get to see what it's like to really work hard with others. Katie knows all the adults going on this trip, and since she is 22, a college studen, and technically an adult, she counts as one this year instead of "just a student" or a "teenager". Also, they all love her and know her visual limitations, so I know she's in good hands with them.
Wouldn't it be fun if they were all airlifted back Home on military planes????? As long as they are safe, I'm happy.
Keep praying!!!!!!
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Questions I hate to answer.....
There are certain questions I hate to answer. Not because I don't know the answer, but because the answer I want to give will invariably be the least expected response that "real people" expect to hear. The "certain questions" I am referring to are the ones centered around how I feel about something. Which, in turn, usually means it's going to be a question that's totally obvious. Hmmmm....let me think for a moment to see if I can come up with an example. Oh, I know--I'll use a question asked of me tonight. One of the parents of a cadet in the squadron asked me, with deep, deep concern and sympathy in her voice, "How are you holding up with Katie gone? Do you miss her? Is it hard without her home?" Arrrgh!!!!
I realize this is three questions rolled into one, and only one of those statements is the exact quote, but I honestly can't tell you which one it is, because all three of those constitute one dumb question (explanation to follow). I also know that this particular parent has never, ever let her one and only child out of her sight his entire life--all 15 years of it--so her dependence on her child is driving this inane question, but, still.........I also know this/these are asked in the spirit of "motherly camaraderie", which I usually don't mind, but knowing this particular parent has never, except for four days this past spring for Airman Academy, let him out of her sight, well.....I just wasn't in the mood for an "un-understanding" person asking me a question like that.
Here's the thing.....I have one of two ways to handle this. "It's hard, but I think I can manage to not cry for about 5 minutes at a time, so I'm improving. And, checking off the days one by one by one by one.....That gives me something to look forward to, and helps keep my otherwise empty brain from getting the best of me so I don't go crazy with how much I miss her. But, I can be strong so the world doesn't see me falling apart while I'm smiling on the outside, but just wasting away to nothing on the inside...."
The second answer is a whole lot easier, but not understood by most "sane" parents. "I'm fine. Why? Am I supposed to miss her?"
Personally, I prefer the second answer. It's to the point, and also asks another question to the initial asker. The second answer, of course, is not totally accurate, either, but it's still the better choice of the two. I'll just say this right here, so people will understand...."I ALWAYS miss Katie and Alex when they go away to somewhere. I don't care if it's back to college, or away on a trip. I ALWAYS MISS THEM. I LOVE THEM...AND I MISS THEM. There, now that that's out of the way....
How can a child go away and NOT be missed?? So, yes, I miss them.
How can a child go away and I don't learn how to cope? Of course I'm coping.
How hard can it be with her gone??? She's gone 7 months of the year to attend college. I think I've learned a few coping skills over the years.
I miss Katie and Alex dreadfully when they go anywhere. They are icredible young adults/children who are fun to be around, smart, delightful, and caring. I love sitting around the table talking, or with all of us on our repsective laptops/Braillenotes, while listening to either Focus on the Family radio programs (Adventures in Odyssey, etc) or the Kim Komando radio call-in show for help with all the computer questions. I love where discussions lead us.
However, I have learned to cope with them not being there because they are such wonderful, intelligent, independent people I've ever known. I respect that immensely. I know that my ability to cope with them being gone has an immense impact on how well they will do in college, or wherever it is that I won't be there to hold their hand. If they don't have to worry about me being a wreck, then they can concentrate on what they have to do.
It's all a mind-set thing. My heart always misses them. However, my mind knows it's not good to give into the disappointment of them being gone. So, I find things to keep my mind occupied. I think of what can be accompished with no one else here. It's a sad fact of life that we have to get used to our kids moving up and away, but that's why the children are born in the first place. I've always said that I had "individual people", not just "babies". Babies means that they will stay young; young adults means that they will grow up to be independent, functioning citizens of the USA.
So, of course I miss Katie when she's gone. Of course I miss Alex when he's gone. But, how else will they become adults if they aren't "allowed" to make some mistakes whie in the comfort and safety of their own home????? I cope with missing either of them just how I cope with everything else..I learn to deal with it, know that it's my job to miss them, and it's their job to grow up and away from me. Anyway, what kind of lousy parent would I be if I made them feel guilty for growing up just because I wanted them to "keep me company". I miss my kids like crazy when they are not here. But, the reality of life is that they get older, move out, and have an incredibly fun and exciting time of doing so!!! I can enjoy what they do because when they tell me all about their "exploits", they know I will share their enthusiam for it, not belittle the fun and excitement.
Now, to loop all these explantions back to the original statement..........this is Katie's fourth time traveling to Honduars with the church, so when this parent asked me if I missed Katie, it must be hard, etc.....I just looked at her and said, "well, it's her fourth time, so, I don't really think about it.
As I said, I hate certain questions. If you want an honest answer, come to me. If you want something sugar-coated, see someone else.
I love you, Katie-girl, and I'm praying for you everyday. Enjoy the wild roller-coaster ride to accomplishing all of your dreams. I'm right here cheering you and Alex on. Hugs and kisses!!!!!! Mom.
I realize this is three questions rolled into one, and only one of those statements is the exact quote, but I honestly can't tell you which one it is, because all three of those constitute one dumb question (explanation to follow). I also know that this particular parent has never, ever let her one and only child out of her sight his entire life--all 15 years of it--so her dependence on her child is driving this inane question, but, still.........I also know this/these are asked in the spirit of "motherly camaraderie", which I usually don't mind, but knowing this particular parent has never, except for four days this past spring for Airman Academy, let him out of her sight, well.....I just wasn't in the mood for an "un-understanding" person asking me a question like that.
Here's the thing.....I have one of two ways to handle this. "It's hard, but I think I can manage to not cry for about 5 minutes at a time, so I'm improving. And, checking off the days one by one by one by one.....That gives me something to look forward to, and helps keep my otherwise empty brain from getting the best of me so I don't go crazy with how much I miss her. But, I can be strong so the world doesn't see me falling apart while I'm smiling on the outside, but just wasting away to nothing on the inside...."
The second answer is a whole lot easier, but not understood by most "sane" parents. "I'm fine. Why? Am I supposed to miss her?"
Personally, I prefer the second answer. It's to the point, and also asks another question to the initial asker. The second answer, of course, is not totally accurate, either, but it's still the better choice of the two. I'll just say this right here, so people will understand...."I ALWAYS miss Katie and Alex when they go away to somewhere. I don't care if it's back to college, or away on a trip. I ALWAYS MISS THEM. I LOVE THEM...AND I MISS THEM. There, now that that's out of the way....
How can a child go away and NOT be missed?? So, yes, I miss them.
How can a child go away and I don't learn how to cope? Of course I'm coping.
How hard can it be with her gone??? She's gone 7 months of the year to attend college. I think I've learned a few coping skills over the years.
I miss Katie and Alex dreadfully when they go anywhere. They are icredible young adults/children who are fun to be around, smart, delightful, and caring. I love sitting around the table talking, or with all of us on our repsective laptops/Braillenotes, while listening to either Focus on the Family radio programs (Adventures in Odyssey, etc) or the Kim Komando radio call-in show for help with all the computer questions. I love where discussions lead us.
However, I have learned to cope with them not being there because they are such wonderful, intelligent, independent people I've ever known. I respect that immensely. I know that my ability to cope with them being gone has an immense impact on how well they will do in college, or wherever it is that I won't be there to hold their hand. If they don't have to worry about me being a wreck, then they can concentrate on what they have to do.
It's all a mind-set thing. My heart always misses them. However, my mind knows it's not good to give into the disappointment of them being gone. So, I find things to keep my mind occupied. I think of what can be accompished with no one else here. It's a sad fact of life that we have to get used to our kids moving up and away, but that's why the children are born in the first place. I've always said that I had "individual people", not just "babies". Babies means that they will stay young; young adults means that they will grow up to be independent, functioning citizens of the USA.
So, of course I miss Katie when she's gone. Of course I miss Alex when he's gone. But, how else will they become adults if they aren't "allowed" to make some mistakes whie in the comfort and safety of their own home????? I cope with missing either of them just how I cope with everything else..I learn to deal with it, know that it's my job to miss them, and it's their job to grow up and away from me. Anyway, what kind of lousy parent would I be if I made them feel guilty for growing up just because I wanted them to "keep me company". I miss my kids like crazy when they are not here. But, the reality of life is that they get older, move out, and have an incredibly fun and exciting time of doing so!!! I can enjoy what they do because when they tell me all about their "exploits", they know I will share their enthusiam for it, not belittle the fun and excitement.
Now, to loop all these explantions back to the original statement..........this is Katie's fourth time traveling to Honduars with the church, so when this parent asked me if I missed Katie, it must be hard, etc.....I just looked at her and said, "well, it's her fourth time, so, I don't really think about it.
As I said, I hate certain questions. If you want an honest answer, come to me. If you want something sugar-coated, see someone else.
I love you, Katie-girl, and I'm praying for you everyday. Enjoy the wild roller-coaster ride to accomplishing all of your dreams. I'm right here cheering you and Alex on. Hugs and kisses!!!!!! Mom.
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Katie's going to Honduras...again.
This has been a whirlwind two days!!! Katie and I have been getting her ready to go to Honduras with the All Souls Church ASSIST-JC Team's mission trip to Honduras---leaving Monday night!! She wasn't planning to go since we couldn't afford the over $1,000 it would cost, but at the last minute, a member had to back out due to health reasons (doctor wouldn't clear the teen to go, but I have no idea why the decision came so last minute), so Rev (Mrs) Garrett called me 9:30 Friday morning to ask me if Katie would be interested in taking the person's place. No charge for us, since it was already paid. Of course, Mrs Garrett was waiting for the final OK from the original family, so she'd let me know by the afternoon if they were fine with it. Then she said she didn't want to get Katie's hopes up by telling her before she was sure, but she also had to know if Katie had other plans for the week.
Two questions came to my mind, just because I tend to think like this: 1) Why would the other family care is someone took the teen's place, since at this late stage of the planning, there is no refund, and 2) Why was Mrs Garrett calling ME when Katie is 22 years old and can get her hopes up or down, accordingly?? Mrs. Garrett is absolutely the cutest person in this whole world. I dearly love, love, love her and have told her that I want Katie to be like her when Katie grows up. Geez, I want to be like her!!! I totaly love the way the adults in that church love and cherish Katie.
I'm sure there is a step I missed somewhere along that first conversation about returning or changing the tickets; and, of course, since I'm me and this is just how I think---as soon as I hung up with Mrs. Garrett, I went right into Katie's room and told her my conversation with Renee, and "I'm not supposed to be telling you this in case it doesn't work out, but get your passport out, and let's start praying for God to decide...."
About 15 minutes later, Renee calls back, the parents are fine with Katie taking the ticket. Now the fun begins. Thankfully, this will be her fourth trip down there, so I still have most of what she needs packed in a certain drawer in my room. Since she is with the medical team, she will translate for the doctors, and she will pretty much live in scrubs the time they are "in the field/at the clinic". However, she needs her "travel meds" such as malaria pills, typhoid pills, etc. Usually, this is all done weeks ahead of time, so there's no rush. Now, however.......
So, I call the Bangor Immunization Clinic, explain what's happening and why it's so last minute. At first, the only opening is Monday afternoon for the shot (malaria). After I make that appointment, and again because I'm me and I tend to talk and talk, the lady finds out that this will be her fourth trip there, so I guess she's comfortable knowing that we know what we are doing, so she tells us if we can be there within an hour, she can see us. Katie runs up to get dressed (during this conversation she was eating breakfast), I grab my purse and her shot records from previous years, and we are out the door.
So, not only do we have to get her prescriptions for the pills (somehow in the conversation it turned into getting pills as opposed to a shot....I have no idea how), I have to clean two houses on opposite ends of town AND get home in time to get them up to the Division for the Blind and Visually Impaired so they can meet with their case worker (about college bills, and what she will help them with, which winds up to be a huge help) at 3:30. By the time we get out of the Immunization clinic, it's almost 11:00. Added to this wonderful land of craziness is the fact that Katie is desperately waiting for the packing list to be emailed her by Mrs. Garrett.
We leave the Clinic, go clean my first house (over in Hermon), then on our way back into Bangor, I decide to stop by the church so Katie can get some T-shrits they have for free from the Parks and Rec department, and when we walk in, there are four people sitting at a table in the Hearth Room. They all yell, "Katie!!!!!" They are so happy she's going on the Trip. We get the shirts, talk to all who were there, and finally try to leave. We spent at least 45 minutes there. Which, normally I wouldn't mind at all, but I had another house to clean, plus get home, take a shower, and get them up to DBVI/career center so they are not late for their appointment with Carrie.
Well, somehow I managed to get everything finished in the alloted time, go to DBVI, and still have time at the end of the day to read. Of course, that still doesn't take into account all the shopping we did today (or "yesterday", depending on what time this says it is when I hit "post"). Katie and I had to go shopping for the "little doo-dads" that were not on the list, but she will know she needs.....granola bars, more scrubs, etc.
Then.......she had to spend the rest of the day packing. We have to have all the suitcases that are not carry-ons, at the church before the morning service. There is always a "dedication" service for the travelers, then a last-time information meeting for the travelers and parents.
On paper, it doesn't seem like it has been as crazy-busy as it has been. But, it's all for a good cause. And, since she and Alex have been there before, we had the whole routine down, just not the "panic" part.
Katie is so excited to be going. She hated not getting to go this year, and she still can't believe she was the one chosen to fill in. Mrs. Garrett had told me in a previoius conversation (last week ) that they were really going to miss her Spanish-speaking abilities. Now, they don't have to think about her being there....she'll be there in person!!! YAY
I'm falling asleep while writing this. I just typed (and erased) a whole sentence that doesn't/didn't make any sense!!! ha ha ha. Goodnight!!!!!
Two questions came to my mind, just because I tend to think like this: 1) Why would the other family care is someone took the teen's place, since at this late stage of the planning, there is no refund, and 2) Why was Mrs Garrett calling ME when Katie is 22 years old and can get her hopes up or down, accordingly?? Mrs. Garrett is absolutely the cutest person in this whole world. I dearly love, love, love her and have told her that I want Katie to be like her when Katie grows up. Geez, I want to be like her!!! I totaly love the way the adults in that church love and cherish Katie.
I'm sure there is a step I missed somewhere along that first conversation about returning or changing the tickets; and, of course, since I'm me and this is just how I think---as soon as I hung up with Mrs. Garrett, I went right into Katie's room and told her my conversation with Renee, and "I'm not supposed to be telling you this in case it doesn't work out, but get your passport out, and let's start praying for God to decide...."
About 15 minutes later, Renee calls back, the parents are fine with Katie taking the ticket. Now the fun begins. Thankfully, this will be her fourth trip down there, so I still have most of what she needs packed in a certain drawer in my room. Since she is with the medical team, she will translate for the doctors, and she will pretty much live in scrubs the time they are "in the field/at the clinic". However, she needs her "travel meds" such as malaria pills, typhoid pills, etc. Usually, this is all done weeks ahead of time, so there's no rush. Now, however.......
So, I call the Bangor Immunization Clinic, explain what's happening and why it's so last minute. At first, the only opening is Monday afternoon for the shot (malaria). After I make that appointment, and again because I'm me and I tend to talk and talk, the lady finds out that this will be her fourth trip there, so I guess she's comfortable knowing that we know what we are doing, so she tells us if we can be there within an hour, she can see us. Katie runs up to get dressed (during this conversation she was eating breakfast), I grab my purse and her shot records from previous years, and we are out the door.
So, not only do we have to get her prescriptions for the pills (somehow in the conversation it turned into getting pills as opposed to a shot....I have no idea how), I have to clean two houses on opposite ends of town AND get home in time to get them up to the Division for the Blind and Visually Impaired so they can meet with their case worker (about college bills, and what she will help them with, which winds up to be a huge help) at 3:30. By the time we get out of the Immunization clinic, it's almost 11:00. Added to this wonderful land of craziness is the fact that Katie is desperately waiting for the packing list to be emailed her by Mrs. Garrett.
We leave the Clinic, go clean my first house (over in Hermon), then on our way back into Bangor, I decide to stop by the church so Katie can get some T-shrits they have for free from the Parks and Rec department, and when we walk in, there are four people sitting at a table in the Hearth Room. They all yell, "Katie!!!!!" They are so happy she's going on the Trip. We get the shirts, talk to all who were there, and finally try to leave. We spent at least 45 minutes there. Which, normally I wouldn't mind at all, but I had another house to clean, plus get home, take a shower, and get them up to DBVI/career center so they are not late for their appointment with Carrie.
Well, somehow I managed to get everything finished in the alloted time, go to DBVI, and still have time at the end of the day to read. Of course, that still doesn't take into account all the shopping we did today (or "yesterday", depending on what time this says it is when I hit "post"). Katie and I had to go shopping for the "little doo-dads" that were not on the list, but she will know she needs.....granola bars, more scrubs, etc.
Then.......she had to spend the rest of the day packing. We have to have all the suitcases that are not carry-ons, at the church before the morning service. There is always a "dedication" service for the travelers, then a last-time information meeting for the travelers and parents.
On paper, it doesn't seem like it has been as crazy-busy as it has been. But, it's all for a good cause. And, since she and Alex have been there before, we had the whole routine down, just not the "panic" part.
Katie is so excited to be going. She hated not getting to go this year, and she still can't believe she was the one chosen to fill in. Mrs. Garrett had told me in a previoius conversation (last week ) that they were really going to miss her Spanish-speaking abilities. Now, they don't have to think about her being there....she'll be there in person!!! YAY
I'm falling asleep while writing this. I just typed (and erased) a whole sentence that doesn't/didn't make any sense!!! ha ha ha. Goodnight!!!!!
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Happy Birthday Alex!!!! 20 years old.....
Happy 20th Birthday my darling, sweet, baby boy Alex!!!!! June 9, 1989 was a wonderful day for me....and the world. You were added to the earth's mix of strange, wonderful, and incredible people. You have made the world a better place just by being a part of it. You are my blessing from God; my Heavenly present. You bring me laughter when I need it, and sometimes even when I didn't know I needed it. You have taught me to look at the world in a different way (pun intended) and realize that this life can be enjoyed and conquered in more than the "traditional" way. You can do anything you set your mind to, and you have proven that time and again. You can't even begin to imagine how much I love you, how proud of you I am, and how humbly grateful I am to God that He allowed you to be my son. Happy, happy birthday Alex. Love, Mom.
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